Family’s Fun Run in Memory of Daughter CarriganStephanie McKay, her partner Sean Ogilvie and their 1 year old son, Tierney, will be taking part in the Big Fun Run Glasgow on July 27th. They will be raising money and awareness for several different charities who helped them through the toughest few months of their lives.
PPROM- Preterm Premature Rupture of Membranes and BWS- Beckwith-Wiedemann Syndrome are the illnesses that they will be raising awareness for and they will also be helping the Ronald McDonald House Glasgow, and the NICU in the Queen Elizabeth Hospital.
Stephanie recalled the early part of her journey – “It all started when we decided we would have another child. Once I fell pregnant I was naturally very excited”
“My 13 week scan was not so straightforward. I was told that something didn’t look normal around the stomach area or the baby. We were told it could be 1 of 3 conditions – gastroschisis, exomphalos or a hernia. I was sent to Newcastle IVR fetal medicine unit for a scan where I was told straight away this was exomphalos. Luckily this is very treatable and within a few weeks we found out we were having a baby girl!”
“The next few weeks were pretty smooth until after 19 weeks we found out that my waters had broken (PPROM) and that I could go into labour at any time. Later that night we were told that I would probably miscarry the baby and I was offered a termination – I said no”
“At 24 weeks the doctors were talking about delivering baby. We got told the baby’s heartbeat wasn’t normal and was told it could be best to deliver. At this early stage chances of survival were close to zero. Throughout the whole pregnancy we were asked 3-4 times if we wanted to stop the pregnancy and we always said no”
“Shortly after we got transferred to Glasgow and was kept there for a week, at this point we decided to transfer our care to the Queen Elizabeth hospital as it was closer to family and had more support. All was ok a few scares in and out but we got to the 28 week point which is what the consultants wanted”
“On February 8th I went in for my regular check up and everything was fine until I was put on the CTG to check the baby’s heart trace. Our consultant was not happy with the baby’s heartbeat and decided it was time for a C-Section”
“At 19:09pm our little girl Carrigan Kathleen Ogilvie was born at an astonishing 5lb 2oz. We were amazed by her size thinking at 28 weeks 6 days for being so premature that this was amazing and would help her.”
“A couple days later we got the news that she had extensive bleeding to the brain. This was a major set back in Carrigans health as there was nothing doctors could do and it would slowly start to shut down her body. This was devastating news, we didn’t know what to say or ask. We literally just wanted to spend the last remaining time we had with her. We had called around and let family and friends know that after all the good news we’ve had over the last couple of days that it’s gone wrong for Carrigan.”
“The nursing staff dealing with Carrigan where truly remarkable in helping us make as many memories as possible with her. We managed to get cuddles and start using this time as comfort for us all.”
“As we always said we brought Carrigan into the world as a little miracle who fought so hard and we would allow her to decide when she wants to leave and give us a sign of when it’s time to turn the machine off. When her heart rate dropped drastically we decided that we didn’t we didn’t want her in any more discomfort. So with a huge lump in our throat and pain in our hearts we turned off the ventilation machine and let Carrigan go in her own time. She passed peacefully in our arms a short time later.”
“We are raising money for these causes and for the great work the NICU done with Carrigan and for us as a family throughout it all. We will also be donating to the Ronald McDonald House in Glasgow as they provide excellent services to families.”
“The staff at the NICU were fantastic and helped us create memories that will last a lifetime. They organised photographers and staff came to do casts of hands and feet. They organised a little memory box. They have been great through everything and we can’t thank them enough. We have visited them once since to donate some arts and crafts equipment to help any further families in our situation which we will continue to do.”
“The Ronald McDonald House were outstanding. As we stay in Carlisle, they provided a room for us to stay in, away from family to process everything from the birth and after the death on our own. After Carrigan passed we thought we would need to pack up and leave but that wasn’t the case. We were allowed to stay as long as Carrigan was still at the hospital and even then the house allowed us to stay longer if we needed it. They also stored some things for us until after the funeral that we had brought up to Glasgow.”
Big Fun Run Glasgow will be Stephanie and Sean’s first 5K event in memory of Carrigan. It will also be Tierney’s and they will be doing something special to mark the occasion.
“This is our first 5K and we decided to take part in Big Fun Run as it is an event for all the family we decided to take part so that Tierney, could join us in fundraising. We will be doing the Big Fun Run dressed as Disney princesses in memory of our own little princess.”
The Big Fun Run promises a fun, relaxed atmosphere and is the perfect challenge to set yourself in 2019. To find out more about the 2019 Series and find events near you, visit www.bigfunrun.com.
To read more about Stephanie’s story and donate, please visit: https://www.justgiving.com/crowdfunding/carriganogilvie8